As January 31 comes upon us, we may find ourselves looking in the mirror wondering why we have already given up on the goals we set for ourselves on New Year’s Day. How can we be so excited at the prospect of losing weight, stopping smoking, becoming more organized, etc. only to give up a few weeks later? Much of it often boils down to unrealistic expectations. We live in a quick fix society, and if the results we seek do not happen quickly, we tend to get discouraged and throw in the towel.
The good news is that there are ways to increase your success when it comes to setting goals:
1) Make your goals realistic. If you set the goal of losing 25 pounds by the end of the month, you are most likely setting yourself up for failure. However, if you set a goal of losing 25 pounds at the end of four months that is much more realistic since most people lose body fat at a rate of 1 – 2 pounds per week.
2) Make your goal specific. Don’t just make a goal to become more organized. Make a goal to start filing your paperwork properly or by getting rid of junk mail as soon as it comes.
3) Set yourself up for success. If your goal is to stop eating junk food, don’t bring it into the house. If your goal is to stop using your credit cards, take them out of your wallet and put them in a place that is difficult to get to.
4) Write your goals down. According to Forbes, a study by Gail Matthews at Dominican University showed that the people who wrote down their goals achieved a great deal more than those who did not write down their goals. Writing down our goals provides a visual to our brain of what we are wanting to accomplish.
5) Make your goals measurable. Whatever your goal is, there needs to be a way to determine if you are moving in the right direction toward achieving your goal.
6) Realize that there will be setbacks along the way. After all, none of us are perfect. Consider setbacks opportunities to learn, and keep moving forward. By recognizing this as you are setting your goal, you will not be devastated if there is a setback.
If you find that you are still having difficulty with your goals, it may help to seek help. This could be in the form of a support group, a mentor, or a therapist. Soon you will on your way to fulfilling your goals.
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